Day 251: Kurek Ashley
“… when you say “I don’t have time to do that” that’s like saying “I didn’t have time to put fuel in the plane today because I’m too busy flying.” Well, if you have that metaphor, you’re guaranteed to crash.”
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Toni Reece: Thank you so very much, Kurek, for agreeing to be part of this Project today, and before we begin, can you please introduce yourself?
Kurek Ashley: Yes. My name is Kurek Ashley. I am an international bestselling author of the book How Would Love Respond? Also, I’m a peak performance and success coach, and I, with a Chicago accent, live on the Sunshine Coast of Australia.
Toni: Well thank you for being here. When you think of the word inspiration, who do you inspire, and how does that happen?
Kurek: Well, I think the people that I inspire the most are people who are looking for more fulfillment and happiness and just something better in their life. They’re at that fork in the road where they just say “Okay, this is not what I thought life was going to turn out to be.”
I think one of my qualities in life is that I help people tap into their inner child to remember that the Creator made us children first, and that’s so that we could master it, not surrender it. So when people wake back up into their child or into their spirit, which the word inspired means, I think that’s the people who see the light and say “Hey, I want something different.” That includes people who want to be happier, better relationships with their family, better health and fitness, and yes, be financially successful as well, because it’s really about holistic success.
Toni: Absolutely. Now, when someone is in front of you, is that how that inspiration occurs, or is it through a website, seminars? What happens?
Kurek: Well, that’s quite a unique question, only because I get connected by so many different ways, including ways I have no idea how they got a hold of me, and yet … part of it, now that my book is a bestseller, I think it’s a really profound experience to be contacted by people all over the world that you’ve never really met before but have gotten experience of you or touched by you because of your book. That’s been really a wonderful experience, and it’s quite profound for me because my father didn’t think I could read, let alone write, and to have an international bestseller is quite an amazing thing.
Also, I think there’s a word of mouth, just because when you connect with one person and they’re inspired and they start to light up, people around them ask “Hey, what happened to you? How did you change your life?”
And then also through my workshops. I just think everywhere I go in the world my … the way I operate in life is that what I do for a living is not my job – it’s who I am. And so it means to be consistent, no matter where I go, so every person that you meet, instead of working on being interesting, be interested. Be interested in them instead of trying to make yourself interesting.
Toni: With this mindset and the way that you inspire people, the work that you do, can you give an example of how someone’s potential can be explored? How it can go further than they could have even dreamed?
Kurek: Well, yeah. The first thing that I believe I have to do with people is not only teach them content, but it’s having the mindset to make sure I help facilitate change. So to be a real coach in my mind, it means that I have to use every tool I can, including sometimes tough love, to create the leverage to get a person to take that first step. The step doesn’t have to be a big step – it just has to be a step outside of what they normally do and how they normally operate.
So I have many different ways of doing that. One of them, though, is that I plant seeds in people’s subconscious minds so that it’s pretty hard to get away from not making the change. I think people who know me, they don’t really want to be around me if they don’t want to change. Like I’m the wrong person to come and just whine and complain to because I’m going to get you to change.
It’s just about tapping into … sometimes it’s a pain threshold to the person or the fears of how bad it’s going to be if you don’t make the shift, and all of a sudden you’ll notice that people start moving away from pain. Pain can actually be your best friend, as long as you use it appropriately.
Toni: What inspires you, Kurek?
Kurek: What inspires me is watching everybody and anybody who applies the formula. I call it the formula because Wallace Delois Wattles, who wrote the book The Science of Getting Rich, said that it is a real scientific formula that gets people successful – or there’s another formula for failure, which is basically don’t use the formula for success – but that anybody and everybody who would use the formula is guaranteed to get the same kind of great result.
I love it because everybody that I’ve worked with that follows the formula gets results. I have seen some very profound changes in people, including parents who tried to have a baby for 14 years and had 12 miscarriages. You know, I worked with them for two months, and they were pregnant and they have children now. I’ve had that happen many times. A woman in Los Angeles who was paralyzed and got the use of her legs back – just amazing things. And also just people losing dramatic amounts of weight or quit smoking on the spot and never go back.
It could be anything. It’s just anybody who does something inspiring in their life inspires me, because it shows me that it’s worked for everybody and anybody, and it’s not just special people or people born under a special star or something. It’s anybody who applies this strategy.
Toni: How did you get here? What happened to you that you became so passionate about the power of the individual and helping that individual to be inspired and to move towards the best that they can be? How did you get here?
Kurek: Well, that’s a two-part question for me. One is that I’ve kind of always done it, only because as a child I always looked out at the life of the adults in front of me and could not figure out … being a child looked so fun, and then as soon as you got to be an adult it seemed so painful and drudgery and, you know, fat and lonely and broke and just struggling. So I said “The Creator can’t put you on the planet for this reason. It doesn’t make sense.” And so I went in search of all those other people who seemed to have great lives. They were that minority of adults who still seemed to have fun. So I went in search of that.
Then, in 1989, when I used to be an actor in Hollywood, I was doing a movie in the Philippines with Chuck Norris called Delta Force II, and I survived a helicopter crash on the filming of the movie where five of my friends died and my best friend died in my arms. And for two-and-a-half years, I had a gun in my mouth every night and drugs up my nose and smokee cigarettes and drank booze – and I was literally on a very negative downward spiral – and one day woke up and had a new thought, which is that your life is not your own, is that there’s people who love you and care about you. And as a human being, you got a gift called life and you owe back to humanity and the Universe for the gift of life that you got. You have to contribute back, because we’re here to interact with each other, not be independent.
Once I really got the weight of that thought, I literally gave up cocaine and cigarettes and alcohol abuse and all those things in one day, and turned my life around and started back on this path. And because I know that the reason I didn’t die in the helicopter crash is that the Creator has a purpose for me, I have to fulfill that purpose. It was very clear to me, and my life has been a rocket ride since then.
Toni: Thank you so much for sharing that. How do you continue to explore your own potential to do the work that you do?
Kurek: Well, one of my basic primary belief systems is that there’s four main muscle groups that you have to work on every day to stay strong, because if you’re not strong, you buy into the hallucination that the outside environment is dictating how you feel. If you want to get ahead in life, you have to work these four main muscle groups: Physical, Mental, Emotional, and Spiritual.
Those are the four things that you need to do first up, right off the day, because when you say “I don’t have time to do that” that’s like saying “I didn’t have time to put fuel in the plane today because I’m too busy flying.” Well, if you have that metaphor, you’re guaranteed to crash. Well, it’s the same thing with these muscle groups in that if you don’t have time to work on yourself, you’re definitely going to crash in your life. But also is … when you work on them, you are inspired and you constantly evolve.
Physically, you have to do exercise every day. It could be dancing, swimming, hitting the gym, whatever you want; also, eating regime.
Mental – you know, every day I’m in books, audios. I attend other people’s workshops and seminars, because your mind is a muscle.
Emotional – we have to work on that. So be kind to yourself and hang out with positive people and reframe things, ask what’s great about this.
Spiritual – the way we connect to spirit is through self-love, because I’m not a religious person, yet the Bible says if you do not know love, you do not know God, because God is love. So if we want to connect to Source, it’s through self-love. And I believe every problem that a human being has on this planet is a self-love issue, because if you really love yourself, you wouldn’t allow yourself to stay poor, and you certainly wouldn’t smoke cigarettes, and you wouldn’t rip somebody else off, because that’s not how love would respond.
So you’ve got to work on those four things every day, and that keeps me inspired, but it also keeps me evolving and I just feel great every day. I get up at 4 a.m. every day because that’s my personal development time.
Toni: Kurek, you have given a lot of information in just a short amount of time with this interview, and we will definitely showcase a way that people can check out the business that you’re in and what you do for others so that they might be able to participate as well. And for showing up today on the Get Inspired! Project and sharing this information, we are in deep appreciation. Thank you so very much.
Kurek: Oh, my pleasure. Thank you for having me. I’m very honored.
Toni: You’re quite welcome. Take care, and thank you.
Kurek: Thank you.
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For more information about Kurek Ashley: www.lifesuccessclub.com
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