Day 138: Jerry Moyer

February 15, 2010 at 12:01 am, Category: Inspiration

“My own personal belief is that we’re all from the same energy, and so if we’re being that inspiring person — we’re going out every day and charging and living life with an inspired thought process and inspired actions — by definition we’re affecting everyone.  You can’t do that without affecting everyone.”

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Toni Reece: Thank you so much, Jerry, for agreeing to be part of the Project and before we begin, can you please introduce yourself?

Jerry Moyer: Yeah, hi, my name is Jerry Moyer and, Toni, I want to start actually by just thanking you for, number one, doing this Project and inviting me to be a part of it.  It’s an absolutely amazing concept, and I’ve been following it since its inception.  I know several of the people who you’ve already interviewed and really looking forward to sharing any little nuggets that I may have to help the Project.

Toni: Well, thank you.  So tell me about … what do you do, Jerry?

Jerry: That’s a good question.  I do a lot of things, actually.  My full-time job is I’m a full-time real estate professional with Prudential-Landis in Wyomissing, Pennsylvania.  I also do a lot of coaching, both athletically in the sport of soccer and life coaching.  I do some things with some high-level athletes.  I also have been working with individuals and businesses that are facing challenges and, in addition to that, I’ve just released a movie called “FIGHT-The Movie.”  So I guess I now wear the hat of co-producer and writer and all that good stuff.

Toni: Fantastic.  Well, Jerry, when you think about that word inspiration, who do you inspire and how do you do that?

Jerry: It’s a really interesting question, Toni, and to me it’s a very personal one.  When I think of “inspire,” I still fall back to — and it’s just the thing that jumps into my brain — is I fall back to a definition of “to breathe life into.”  There’s a lot of different definitions of inspire, but “to breathe life into” is kind of the core of what I try to do every day.  When I think of inspiration, I’m thinking of “How can I breathe life into someone else’s dreams?”

Toni: How do you go about that?

Jerry: It’s a great process.  I started about 10 years ago doing one simple thing that has changed my life.  I wake up every day, I thank the Universe for yet another day, and then I look for every single opportunity I can to inspire people.  Simple things, simple smiling at people, offering words of encouragement whenever and wherever I can, telling people they look good, just offering affirmations.

What I’ve learned, Toni, is there is not enough of it.  There’s a lot of people that, in my opinion, have been somewhat faulty programmed, if you will, and wake up thinking otherwise.  What I have learned is that anything is possible.  If you come up and are attacking things with the right mind frame, we can do anything at all.

Toni: How do you think that that, gosh, that positive energy, that willingness to inspire from a simplest gesture to a grand gesture, how do you think then that that works for you in helping others explore their potential?

Jerry: Well, it’s empowering.  It’s something … you know, my own personal belief … and this is a topic some people like discussing, some people don’t.  My own personal belief is that we’re all from the same energy, and so if we’re being that inspiring person — we’re going out every day and charging and living life with an inspired thought process and inspired actions — by definition we’re affecting everyone.  You can’t do that without affecting everyone.

I always tell people … and this is a simple one for me to explain it is we’ve all been, I believe, we’ve all been in situations where we’re around someone and it just makes you feel good.  For some reason, sometimes it’s intangible and you don’t even know what it is, but when you’re around them you feel good.  You feel like you can do anything.

And then there’s other people that the second they come in the room — you don’t even have to talk to them — the second they come in the room there’s something that happens where you can feel the energy leaving.  And to me, it’s a choice.

You know, one of the things that I’ve decided in my life is I now actively seek out people who are inspiring, people with that positive energy, if you will.  And the ones that don’t have it, if they want to explore some ways to try to get a little better at it, I’m more than willing to work with them.  But if they don’t want it then, you know, I’ve made a decision that I’m not going to surround myself with those people.

Toni: And so by being that way and almost setting the example, do you think then that that comes across to others as far as working on their potential of having a choice of how they live, how they come into the room, how they choose to experience?  Is that one way that you might help people to explore their potential is to help them realize they have that choice?

Jerry: A hundred percent.  I did a mentorship about 15 years ago with Bob Proctor who everyone knows now from the wildly famous “The Secret,” and Bob Proctor shared something with me — his little stick figure by a guy named Dr. Therman Fleet that kind of just gave a visual representation of the way we think, the way we’re conditioned, and it’s changed my life.

One of the things … the example Dr. Fleet shares is that any moment, at every moment, we all have the choice to — as human beings with an intellectual mind — we all have the ability to entertain a thought, to entertain the data, if you will, that’s coming into us, and I never had done that before.  I kind of … and I think most people fall into this category.  We soak up whatever’s given to us.

In my own life, when it came to sports, I was filled with great information from the time I was five years old.  “You’re going to be the best soccer player.  You’re going to be the next Pele.”  And I believed it all.  It came in.  I didn’t even put it through a screening process.  I just believed it.  I worked hard and, next thing you know … again, I’m simplifying the story, but sure enough, I ended up wildly successful in soccer as a player, coach, etc., and other things in my life — business for example, making money, living a “successful life.”  Define successful.

I wasn’t necessarily given the best information.  So I had to go off on my own journey, if you will.  I had to start seeking and looking for it and, you know, I think potential again is one of those words.  I think we all have limitless potential.  We can do whatever we want to do if we’re willing to maybe do some deprogramming in some cases, some reprogramming, and then to get after it, to get busy.

Toni: So just a quick question to that point.  Are you saying that it was helpful for you to seek information to support the thought that you were entertaining so that you could follow through with that so that you could meet that potential but to be open-minded to additional information surrounding that thought?

Jerry: A hundred percent.  I mean, one of the things that I believe, Toni, is you know, maybe the … I think we all need to have open minds to explore things in our own unique way.  But with that being said, there are people out there who’ve already done some things that I wanted to do.

I’ll keep it to me.  There were some people who’ve done some things.  There were some people … I always was interested in meditation, so through the Mark Victor Hansen connection — which is another great mentor of mine, you know — I met a guy named Dr. Guru Singh and learned about meditation and had some experience.  There are people out there … I believe we’re all interconnected, and there are people out there who are more than willing to help you with whatever it is you’re looking for that part of that process, however, you gotta get off your butt and go looking!

You know, for a good portion of my life, I was sitting around kind of frustrated and wondering why it wasn’t happening.  And I realized that, you know what?  I’m part of this process.  Not the entire process, but I’m part of it and a big part of it, and it was up to me to get up and go get after it to find these people.

Toni: So Jerry, what inspires you?  What do you need to be inspired?

Jerry: It’s again … I keep saying this, but it’s a personal thing.  For me, I need to have targets.  I need to have some direction, so I’m very, very big in the goal-setting process.  I’m very big in the process of — both individually and when I’m working with other people — having discussions and really taking a good hard look at their life as to what’s in their life that they love?  What’s in their life that they would like to be there?  And then we go through a process of setting some targets.

Once you have a target, you know, then you have something you shoot for.  And it’s not always going to be a straight and smooth road.  But when you do get off-course, which, you know, again I tell people it’s inevitable.  It’s bound to happen.  There’s going to be some bumps and roadblocks that come along the way.  But when those things happen, if you have a real clear target of where you want to go, it’s much easier to get back on the proper path.

Toni: So the targets in that direction are what inspires you to keep moving in a direction.  But are there also other things that you reach for, that you look for, you find yourself moving towards when you’re at that place going “You know, I could use a little inspiration right about now?”  Where do you find yourself going?

Jerry: Well, I think people like to feel good.  One of the general statements that I say all the time is, given the choice, I think people like to feel good.  And I know in my own case, you know, there were times when, like everyone else, some things in my life weren’t going the way that I wanted to go and that’s one of the things where I did seek out, you know, I wanted to seek out, you know … okay, I’ll mention you and your Project and other similar type of coaches.

You know, I always laugh.  Again, I have a very strong, high-level athletic background, and in sports it’s perfectly normal to get a coach.  Perfectly normal to get a mentor to help you attain your athletic goals.  Yet most people think that that’s some foreign thing, that you somehow look weak if you do it in your own personal life.

And to me, you know, I’ve learned … from my perspective, it’s completely the opposite.  It should be something that people should almost wear as a badge of honor that, you know “Hey, I’m going for it.  I’m going to live a fulfilled life.  I’m going to chase my dreams and, guess what, I’m going to need some help.”  And there’s plenty of people like yourself and others that are out there that are more than willing, more than qualified.  But again, you need to make the call; you need to go searching for them.

Toni: Jerry, have you always been like this?  Have you always come to the table with this drive and motivation and positive attitude, or was there something that kind of went “Yeah, you know what?  I need to do something a little bit different.”  Because those who listen and read these transcripts and these interviews pick up that information from people that are being interviewed, so was there … is this an evolution for you or was there a moment for you?

Jerry: It’s been an evolution, but there clearly was a defining moment or two within it.  Again — and I know I’m repeating myself a little bit — but the programming I had was very strong in sports, so I was always driven for sports.  Everything that I ever set my goal and target for in sports, literally everything that I ever wanted to do, I was able to attain and move forward.  Yet there were clear voids in the rest of my life, some things that I thought about, I dreamt about, and just weren’t happening, and again I remember a defining moment.

I had a one-on-one conversation with Bob Proctor when I was in the mentorship program with him — this was maybe 15 years ago — and he made a couple statements.  Again, they’re pretty simple on the surface, but they were life changing.  He said, “If you can tell me what you want, I can tell you how to get there.”  And it’s a pretty bold statement, but it was interesting because right away I couldn’t tell him what I wanted.  There were some things, some ideas, but I really didn’t even know myself what I wanted.

So the first thing that was kind of one of those “ah-ha” moments for me was that, hey, if I wanted something, if I had any real aspiration of attaining something, I needed to be crystal clear in what it was.  Here I was paying a lot of money at the time to mentor with Bob Proctor, and I couldn’t answer what was a pretty simple question.  “What do you want?”

I never had … you know, I’m 46 years old now.  This is when I was 31, 32 years old, and I really had never taken the time myself to sit down and figure out “What do I really want?”  That was a key “ah-ha” moment for me where I said “Wow, I’ve got to take this spotlight and shine it a little bit back at myself from time to time to figure out what I want and what I want this existence to be.”

Toni: Well thank you for sharing that.  Now the final question here is what do you need to explore your own potential?

Jerry: It’s an interesting question, as well.  And to explore your own potential, I almost had to get out of my own way.  I don’t know if I’m going to be able to do justice to this, but I’ll try.  There were so many things that were very real to me, things that, again, when I took the time to evaluate how all of these things had come into place, I realize a lot of it was faulty programming from very well intended people: teachers, parents, friends, brothers, siblings, yada, but things that really were not in sync with the person I desired to be  This kind of what I call this inner voice.  There was always this knowing deep inside that there was something greater, something else, but I had to give myself permission to start pursing it.

I tell people sometimes the hardest thing for people to do — and this certainly was a difficult process for me is I had to get out of my own way.  I had to open myself up and get a realization that “Hey, we’re all tapped into everything that ever was or will be, and we’re all, in my opinion, generated from one Universal Source.  And we can do anything if we’ll get in the right channel, if we’ll get affiliated with the right people, and if we just keep fighting, if we just keep determined no matter what happens to keep going in the direction of our dreams.

Toni: Well, Jerry, I can tell you that listening to what you said as far as just with your own potential and giving yourself that permission, the fact that you did that, made those changes to walk on this path, that is such an achievement.  And so many people that are listening and reading these interviews, they don’t give themselves permission, and they’re not doing that because it is so hard.

So by what you said today, I think there’s going to be a lot of value taken from this interview, and I cannot thank you enough for being so honest about what inspires you but also how you inspire.  And for that and everyone here at the Get Inspired! Project, we thank you so much for being part of this today.

Jerry: Toni, thank you so much for the opportunity.  And to everyone who reads this or listens to it, not just my interview but any of the other ones that are part of your Project, you can do it.  Whatever it is that you truly want, you can do it if you’re willing to just keep fighting, if you’re willing to charge forward.  Anything is possible, so go for it.  Don’t wait another day.  Start today and start moving in the direction of your dreams.

Toni: Awesome!  Gosh, this is a timely interview.  Thank you so much.

Jerry: Thank you, Toni.

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For more information about Jerry Moyer:  www.iamreadytofight.com, www.selfgrowth.com/experts/jerry_moyer.html

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